"everywhere i go i look for you / do you look for me where you go too?"

[larryhammer]

I've complained before about seeing a man (and it has always been a man) drive up to somewhere (usually an office building) and get out, whereupon a woman in the passenger seat also gets out and switches over to the driver's seat, and heads off as he goes inside. It is, to me, confusing behavior -- if the point is to drop the husband (or whatever status he is) off at work, why not have him passenge and avoid all the shuffling? Well, whatever.

In any case, I've now seen a new variation. This time it was not a man, but a butch woman.

(And yes, she kissed her femme before heading into work.)

---L.

Subject quote from "A Fuller Wine," Abigail Washburn.

Comments

[klwilliams.livejournal.com]

You really find this confusing?

[larryhammer]

In the "makes me go WTF" sense of confusing, yeah.

---L.

[swan-tower.livejournal.com]

In my case, it was usually because I had just woken up five minutes before rolling out the door, and wanted my husband to do the driving-to-work part while I woke up the rest of the way.

There was also a side factor regarding "whose" car it was: the car in question had been his car back when I still had my own, but then we moved to California and got rid of what had been my car. Which made the remaining one our car, of course . . . but my brain had already been programmed to think "this is the one he drives," so we defaulted to him driving more often than not. Now that his office has moved and he takes mass transit, leaving the car with me on a regular basis, it's starting to feel more like our car to me.

[ersatz-read.livejournal.com]

In the case of spouses, usually one spouse is dominant - absolute equality is rare. I'm guessing that when both people are in the car it's often the dominant spouse who drives. Or at least that's been my experience. My ex almost always drove when both of us were in the car (it was the only car and we'd contributed equal amounts to purchase it, so it wasn't "his"), and I had no interest in driving while he was there to condescend.
That was 20 years ago and my ex was old-fashioned in many ways, but the comments of my friends and coworkers imply that one spouse still usually dominates, and it's still usually the male. This seems to be _slightly_ less true with the younger coworkers.

[leanne-opaskar.livejournal.com]

My husband prefers to drive. So I let him. I don't enjoy it as much as he does.

[larryhammer]

I can see it working out that way when there are two cars, one the primary vehicle of each -- whosever car you're in, they're the driver when present.

---L.